Monday, May 16, 2011

Like mother, like daughter...

It never occurred to me how much I would care that Emery and I have similarities. I mean we're all born different, with different skill sets and looks but when we adopted I found myself hanging on to the little bits of similarities I have with my little love like little pieces of treasure that I dare not share with anyone. It's a fact, she doesn't share my genes. It's not an overreaction or a way to feel sorry for myself...it is what it is. I'll never look at her and think...hmmmm she definitely has my eyes, or my hair (that would look interesting on my head for sure!). So in the last couple months as her personality changes and morphs into more of a little person I find myself delightfully surprised at our similarities. Starting with the fact that homegirl LOVES to sleep! When it's time for her nap and I walk into her room, she gets all giddy...legs kicking and giggly when she sees her blankets in her crib. It may come as a surprise to only a select few of you but I LOVE sleep. I love going to bed at night, I love naps (my favorite are the ones where you open the windows on a crisp day and crawl under the down comforter), I love sleep. Second, she's a pretty wild sleeper and sleeps on her belly with her bum straight up in the air. I don't do the bum in the air part but I'm a wild sleeper and sleeping on my tummy wreaks havoc on my spine but I don't give a rats pooper and I do it anyway. Next, she's stubborn and independent. This one isn't my favorite because I'M stubborn and independent which makes teaching my stubborn and independent almost one year old nearly impossible because we BOTH want to do it OUR way. Last, and this is my favorite, we both can't get enough of Tyler. Seriously. She loves her daddy...she cuddles with him way more than with me, and I think gets a little more excitable when he's around. Lets face it...I can't live without him either. He's an amazing husband and best friend...a fearless leader of his girls and has integrity for miles.
I assume when you have a bio child discovering similarities between yourself and said child are super cool! Actually being able to "see" the resemblance and know that your DNA is woven into this human being is something I'm certain is amazing. So in these times where I'm grasping at the reality that things may be difficult when my little lovey is struggling with the fact that she doesn't look like us, I'll remind her often of the days where I discovered plenty about the three of us that make us fit perfectly together.

2 comments:

  1. Kari....I love this post....and can totally relate....thanks for your sweet perspective. Twyla

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  2. Oh boy just wait. There are certain things we do that everybody notices except us. When I get a bit perturbed apparently my lips get very pursey and prunney this is what they say. That is followed by I have seen Grandma do that when she gets angry at someone (I will mention no names) That lil gal is watching your every move and listening to every sound, wait until she uses your "goods" on you!

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