I manage a salon and day spa. It's been a great job for the last 3+ years and boy howdy do I get to hear some real doozies from where I work at the desk. Just minding my own business while one of the hair dressers was applying color to her client when I thought I heard the word "surrogate"...part of my brain said, "Kari, you have baby on the brain you are going crazy" and then the other part of me said "Be nosey and listen to what she's saying" ***side note the "be nosey" part of me generally always wins***. One of my coworkers who doesn't know I'm adopting (mainly because she works one day and up until a few weeks ago I had NEVER worked a consistent shift with her) says "I think surrogacy is better than adopting because at least you know what you're getting...I have a friend who adopted a little boy and he ended up being bipolar and causing them lots of problems". Oy vey. I wasn't offended, I wasn't even sad, I was just annoyed that there are more people in the world that discuss things they have no knowledge on rather than the other way around. This whole story refers back to this post. How can people actually think that having your own biological child is a guarantee against mental illness? Is this lady for real? Is the world really this ignorant about adoption? I blame it on the media mostly and also lack of education regarding the desperate need there is for adoptive families and how not every adoptee is a troubled runaway who abuses drugs. I wanted to set the record straight but the "keep quiet Kari it's not worth your time" side of me won (this side rarely shows itself because I never listen to it, poor thing). I received a myriad of responses to this and chose my favorite one from a respected woman who fostered many children..."A friend of ours who adopted one of our foster babies was asked by a doctor who was examing him for possible health issues if that would keep her from adopting him. Her answer, "none of my birth kids came with a guarantee stamped on their butts". I've known too many "difficult" kids born to good birth parents--we just accept each child God gives us with our without their problems." People like her are invaluable to the cause of adoption and foster care, outspoken but respectful.