Monday, February 22, 2010

Angelina & Madonna have nothing to do with this...

Lets make one thing ABSOLUTELY clear. Our choice for adoption has absolutely nothing to do with what’s apparently becoming trendy in America. We did not opt to pay a crap load of money so people could categorize us in the “Angelina Jolie and Madonna have adopted so that must be what peeked your interest initially”. To answer your question...yes I’ve had someone say those words to me, I’m not lying. I mean I think it’s awesome if adoption is considered a “trend” because at least there’s some substance to it instead of aviator sunglasses and leg warmers that have somehow weaseled their way back into this decade. This “trend” means a child has an awesome life with a family that can take care of them properly, this “trend” means a future and not death or starvation. Just so you know, Tyler and I successfully came to this conclusion completely separate from Madge & Mrs. Smith...I’m being sarcastic. Here’s a little bit of a disclaimer...I, Kari, in no way am trying to take away from Evita & Tomb Raider’s adoption stories. I simply would have liked to know the process they went through. Legally they’d have to do a home study...what the heck is that like for a social worker? Showing up to freaking Madonna’s house for your first home study visit? Did they have to wait as long to get their court date and their referral like all of my other blog friends who have waited months and months for theirs? The good I see in a situation like theirs is that they weren’t faced with the financial burden that all adoptive parents face through their journey. I can’t imagine having that kind of pressure removed from our situation. What a completely different experience this would be if I didn’t have to wait for the phone to ring telling me yes or no on grants, so I could call Jan and excitedly tell her YES YES YES to any referrals coming our way! And YES YES YES to the other three referrals that have come and gone. You know what? I’m ok with that. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, God chose this for us, not the other way around. We’ll take it all, the good, the bad, the yes and no’s, the wait and see’s...all of it.

2 comments:

  1. Phyllis Johnson-MaberyMarch 2, 2010 at 3:41 PM

    Wow, Do people think before they speak. If they would read your blogs, and took time to know you and Tyler on a personal level, they would of asks a silly question like that. Your pour your heart out all this time and shared with so many of us who are praying and waiting to meet your little one. Adoption is trendy when celebs do it, and from the heart when your doing it for the right reasons, to provide love, time a safe environment and loving parents. Some of us did get that with our real so called parents! Kari you and Tyler have so much to bless a child with, it's going to happen the question is when. Hang in there, sometimes we have to go through pain and dissappoints so we can appreciate the blessings God sends our way.

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  2. Phyllis Johnson-MaberyMarch 2, 2010 at 3:48 PM

    Phyllis Johnson-Mabery said...
    Wow, Do people think before they speak. If they would have read your blogs, and took the time to know you and Tyler on a personal level, they would'nt of asks a silly question like that. You have poured your heart out all this time and shared with so many of us who are praying and waiting to meet your little one. Adoption is trendy when celebs do it. When just the average Joe does it, it comes from the heart, when your doing it for the right reasons. To provide love, time a safe environment and loving parents. Some of us did'nt get that with their so called real parents! Kari you and Tyler have so much to bless a child with, it's going to happen, the question is when. Hang in there, sometimes we have to go through pain and dissappoints so we can appreciate the blessings God sends our way. Listen to John Waller "While I'm waiting" from the moving fireproof. It will fill you with Gods promises while your waiting :). Ok, don't think I'm a freak or stalker for posting twice but; the 1st post had way to many typos. lol

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