Lets make one thing ABSOLUTELY clear. Our choice for adoption has absolutely nothing to do with what’s apparently becoming trendy in America. We did not opt to pay a crap load of money so people could categorize us in the “Angelina Jolie and Madonna have adopted so that must be what peeked your interest initially”. To answer your question...yes I’ve had someone say those words to me, I’m not lying. I mean I think it’s awesome if adoption is considered a “trend” because at least there’s some substance to it instead of aviator sunglasses and leg warmers that have somehow weaseled their way back into this decade. This “trend” means a child has an awesome life with a family that can take care of them properly, this “trend” means a future and not death or starvation. Just so you know, Tyler and I successfully came to this conclusion completely separate from Madge & Mrs. Smith...I’m being sarcastic. Here’s a little bit of a disclaimer...I, Kari, in no way am trying to take away from Evita & Tomb Raider’s adoption stories. I simply would have liked to know the process they went through. Legally they’d have to do a home study...what the heck is that like for a social worker? Showing up to freaking Madonna’s house for your first home study visit? Did they have to wait as long to get their court date and their referral like all of my other blog friends who have waited months and months for theirs? The good I see in a situation like theirs is that they weren’t faced with the financial burden that all adoptive parents face through their journey. I can’t imagine having that kind of pressure removed from our situation. What a completely different experience this would be if I didn’t have to wait for the phone to ring telling me yes or no on grants, so I could call Jan and excitedly tell her YES YES YES to any referrals coming our way! And YES YES YES to the other three referrals that have come and gone. You know what? I’m ok with that. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, God chose this for us, not the other way around. We’ll take it all, the good, the bad, the yes and no’s, the wait and see’s...all of it.