As I was struggling to shut my brain off to this whole new possibility, I thought…we’re going to have a child that looks substantially different then we do. This of course doesn’t bother me, but I wonder if I can tolerate the people who it does bother? How do we prepare ourselves for those future conversations with our little brown baby? Then I had an interesting conversation today with a lady at work who was “concerned” that I might not be fully prepared for the aesthetic differences (i.e. skin color because really that’s ALL IT IS), to which I assured her with these words, “our whole family is going to be different, every last child we adopt or have biologically, will be able to connect THROUGH their differences and not IN SPITE OF”…she said “ok”. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t have it in the bag, in fact I’m totally and completely inexperienced, this I know is true, our baby (no matter the color) will be loved, and fed, and have a roof over their head.